Wednesday, June 26, 2013

Weekly Smorgasbord

I skipped last week, so it's a pretty hefty list. Just click around and see what resonates!

On Faith:
Posted: 21 Jun 2013 01:15 PM PDT
"When David and I discussed all of those pros and cons, we were struck by something: all of our reasons for moving had to do with people and relationships and things with eternal significance. Our reasons for staying had more to do with convenience and not wanting to cause ourselves a huge headache. Of course, there was also the fact that we were emotionally attached to our house. That made me think of a conversation we had in my ladies Bible Study a while back. We were talking about whether we're "pilgrims" or "settlers." Our natural inclination is to want to be settlers. We want to be as settled and as comfortable as possible in this life. But we're really called to be pilgrims. After all, this world is not our home. We're just passing through." 

Well, this was timely. It's really neat when God speaks to your heart through the words on a screen. It's neater still when they're the words of one of your closest friends.

Posted: 23 Jun 2013 09:45 PM PDT
"Something, somewhere, someday is going to break her heart into a million pieces. In that moment, whether it's our next car conversation or 20 years from now, I hope she doesn't reach for euphemisms and colloquialisms to explain all the things she doesn't understand. I just hope she remembers that while it hurts, it won't kill her. Someone already died under that pain so that she didn't have to stick a bandaid on it and try to press on. The burden of despair was fully carried so that when she faces the things that make her question, despair, doubt and wonder the most, she is not alone under the weight of it all. She can let all the pieces fall and let the Gospel of grace and mercy handle the rest."

Posted: 23 Jun 2013 08:54 PM PDT
"while i'm a firm believer in inter-faith dialogue, i think a far-overlooked topic is how hard intra-faith dialogue really is–especially the tricky conversations between those of a more liberal-progressive persuasion and those more firmly committed to conservative-evangelical roots."

Good, good stuff.

On Marriage:
Posted: 21 Jun 2013 01:13 PM PDT
"We collapse on the bed, and it isn't the sinking-sighing collapse after a great day or a long weekend. It's the collapsing of hearts and minds, and the fact that we fail to really see one another. After seventeen years and two energetic daughters, we really don't see one another...We open our hearts up to forgiving the other, even if they don't explicitly ask for it. We open our hearts up to heal, because we decide to let grace into the conversation. And we do this because we've decided to be partners for life."
Posted: 18 Jun 2013 12:09 PM PDT
"Stop trying to fix things. What I really need is for you to just listen."

On Mothering:
Posted: 17 Jun 2013 08:51 PM PDT
"Sending the cards, loaning the good boots, complimenting the jeans. Sharing the best books, driving the car pool, ignoring the squabbling kids, making time for the catching up. Coming when she calls when her man's out of town. Showing up with the Starbucks and sticky buns. Telling her, she can. Especially on the days when she's still wearing her pajamas. Telling her to be kind to herself, and that comfy clothes are always the right choice. Not comparing...Crying alongside. Holding on. Hoping. Passing the tissues. Buying the chocolate. Holding the hands. Opening arms to the grief. Patiently walking the valleys, flash light packed, stop watch left at home. Believing the best, giving the benefit of the doubt, calling. Complimenting...Crying alongside. Holding on. Hoping. Passing the tissues. Buying the chocolate. Holding the hands. Opening arms to the grief. Patiently walking the valleys, flash light packed, stop watch left at home. Believing the best, giving the benefit of the doubt..."
Posted: 18 Jun 2013 09:54 PM PDT
"Bond with your daughter on a new, deeper level by writing letters back and forth. Not only does it keep her inspired to practice her writing over the summer, but it also brings the two of you closer."

What great ideas!

On Adoption:
Posted: 23 Jun 2013 10:33 PM PDT
"Some people maintain that any cultural loss is unimportant compared to what children gain through adoption. But in both mainstream media and personal conversations about adoption, cultural and racial identity need not be pitted against a child's right to love, safety, and security. This unfortunate "either-or" framing of the issue finds frequent expression in discussions of transracial adoption. "

On Serving Others in Unique and Inspiring Ways:
Posted: 23 Jun 2013 09:41 PM PDT
"During the recent Spring Picnic at St. James' Episcopal Church in Jackson, Mississippi, parishioners created a unique labyrinth out of canned goods to benefit Stewpot's Food Pantry. Parishioners donated more than 1,700 cans of food and then used them to create a seven-circuit labyrinth. Cans of beans, mandarin oranges, carrots, tuna, peanut butter and tomatoes lined the one path to the center of the labyrinth and out again."

On Dealing with People:
Posted: 17 Jun 2013 08:44 PM PDT
Good stuff.
Posted: 17 Jun 2013 08:13 PM PDT
"Mostly, for me, though, it's less about managing my social calendar and more about managing my rest time. In my mind, if not on an actual physical calendar, I make sure I get plenty of alone time each week."

I'm planning to write a whole post about some of this stuff. But, just read. Really good.

On Reaching Out and Building Up:
Posted: 16 Jun 2013 10:16 PM PDT
"I am deeply thankful for my country and, especially as an introvert, I cherish the privacy it affords.  Never before, though, did I consider that the ramifications of my right to privacy could reap isolation for others.  Who in my possible sphere of influence am I overlooking in my zealous avoidance of social awkwardness? We land and I wish my new friend good luck as he sprints to make his connection.  In the airport, in a moment of spiritual clarity, I look up and am startled to realize I am surrounded by the embodiment of thousands of divergent stories milling around me.  I feel overwhelmed, insignificant, powerless to engage the silent status quo, and a deep yearning to speak hope and love to the lonely. With emotion too deep to entirely express, or process, I send up my prayer in an exasperated sigh. And I am reminded, "Ask one person one question.""
Posted: 17 Jun 2013 01:31 PM PDT
"Words have energy. If you were to refer to a child as 'satan' his entire life, how do you think he'd turn out? So I'm trying something new. Whenever I see someone, I refer to them as 'mister' or 'missus.' I'm trying to put that energy onto people.""

On Writing:
Posted: 23 Jun 2013 09:09 PM PDT
"There's a great deal of misery to be survived in order to keep a growing beauty alive. It's a daily fight, to keep it from being crushed, not by evil, but by something much worse, which is the ordinary: the slightly chaotic: the pervasive creeping meaninglessness: the sands of the day-to-day. So we do this, all the time: we just quit. The vision comes, and we just let it go away, or make it go away, because we know that building it one stone at a time actually will totally suck, like getting our eyebrows tweezed for a whole year nonstop, and we'd rather avoid the suffering...Be a vessel. That's what you are, anyway. The truth wants in, to you, through you. The cost is temporary loss of self. (And that's the prize, too, you know.) The cost is to be the servant, in a world where everything tells us it's cool to be the boss. "

On Sex and Sexuality:
Posted: 24 Jun 2013 12:27 PM PDT
This may be TMI for some of y'all, but I thought reading the different perspectives was really interesting.
Posted: 13 Jun 2013 09:26 PM PDT
"The fact is, boy scouts are already forbidden from engaging in sexual activity—heterosexual or homosexual—and so the change in policy simply addresses sexual orientation. In other words, being attracted to the same sex does not automatically disqualify a boy from becoming a scout.  Is this really a move to condemn? Would a Southern Baptist Church forbid a child from attending Sunday School based solely on his or her sexual orientation? Even among those who count homosexual behavior as a sin, there is usually at least some room in the fellowship for people attracted to the same sex. So why hold the Boy Scouts to more legalistic standards than many SBC churches? This resolution goes beyond the typical condemnation by the SBC of homosexual behavior to condemn homosexual orientation."

Posted: 23 Jun 2013 10:20 PM PDT
This makes me SUPER nervous, but at the same time it's kind of neat.

On Abortion:
Posted: 17 Jun 2013 09:40 PM PDT
What? NO. You're doing this wrong.

On Things of Great Hilarity:
Posted: 16 Jun 2013 10:36 PM PDT
So hilarious (but really kinda crude, watch out, guys).

On Things that Are Amazing:
Posted: 16 Jun 2013 09:59 PM PDT
So cool!

On My Heart and Mind (in Other Spaces):
Posted: 18 Jun 2013 09:45 PM PDT
"I'm telling myself all this, mostly. And I know I'll probably look back on this post a lot over the next couple of years to remind myself that it's okay. It's okay to write scared. It's okay to write nervous. It's okay to write sad. But it's also okay to write happy. It's okay to write dreaming. It's okay to write optimistic. And when I do, it doesn't take away my right to write scared, nervous and sad."
Posted: 18 Jun 2013 09:46 PM PDT
"Each week (I try to do it on Monday) I look at what the activity is and collect supplies and do any prep work and then I pick times I know the kids will be well rested and we'll have enough time to enjoy the activities and plan to do it then. Right now that's how homeschooling looks in general. It's a very organic thing and very relaxed."


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