Thursday, June 5, 2014

Weekly Smorgasbord

Well, I have quite a few links this go round. Browse through them and see what interests you! These are actually month old links. I thought I had published this, but it was sitting in drafts. Anyway, here they are! 

On Faith:
Posted: 23 Apr 2014 06:32 PM PDT
"I posit that social holiness, NOT social justice, is the foundational pillar of United Methodism. There are deep differences between the two. Social justice is the belief that everyone deserves an equal footing; all deserve access to the same sort of political, social, and economic rights and privileges. Depending on where you fall on the theological or political spectrum, social justice is a loaded term. Some see it as code for socialism, while others interpret it as the driving message of Jesus' Sermon on the Mount. I believe both of those perspectives simplistically caricature social justice. Social justice is a good thing. Social holiness, on the other hand, is categorically different."
Posted: 01 May 2014 12:18 PM PDT
"we can do all sorts of theological and mental gymnastics in an attempt to reconcile the journey of the people of God as recorded in the scriptures with our rules and regulations as 21st century americans in regard to the death penalty." but to claim a christian response without acknowledging the teachings of the One we claim to follow seems to me to be an adventure in missing the point.
Posted: 28 Apr 2014 06:30 PM PDT
"To respond to the spirit of this question, we must refrain from defining both stewardship and sin too narrowly. If we equate good stewardship solely with living off-grid, eating organic or biking to work while wearing fair-trade clothing, it feels pointless to even try—so many of us don't. And if we limit our understanding of sin to committing adultery or coveting our neighbor's fuel-efficient hybrid, we refuse the redeeming—albeit painful—role of conviction. The apostle James expands the definition of sin: "Remember, it is sin to know what you ought to do and then not do it" (James 4:17). In the case of the vacation home where my family stayed, if we had driven off and left the doors unlocked, the windows open and the jacuzzi running, we would have sinned against the owners because we understood the moral obligation, or terms, of using their house." Thought provoking.

On Friendship:
Posted: 28 Apr 2014 06:09 PM PDT
"Look, in an ideal world, established people would see new people come in and they would invite them over.  But we don't live in an ideal world.  And when I am the "old person," I don't always think to invite the new people into my group.  Some people have never been the "new person."  They have always lived with the same people, had the same friends, and never moved.  They honestly just don't think." This was so full of good advice. And I surely need it!

Posted: 02 May 2014 08:52 PM PDT
"One of the best ways you can love this woman is to extend grace to her when these things happen. Don't take it personally. Assign positive intent. Practice the fine art of believing in trying again. It will mean more to her than you'll ever know." This is a great list.

On Parenting:
Posted: 23 Apr 2014 06:30 PM PDT
"She had a horrific experience with the church and said some things that truly made me so mad. The story didn't play out like I had hoped. You guys – I turned judgy Christian and sent her an email. A really judgy one. Letting her know my disappointment. I was such a HUGE JERK! She didn't respond. Good for her. Fast forward some months and I started to feel the guilt. What was I thinking?! Shouldn't she be allowed to be a great mom and not love Jesus? Who am I to judge her past and her current journey of faith? So, I was headed towards her area of town for a speaking thing… and I asked her to lunch. After a few stalker-like attempts, she responded. And said yes.   I was clear on my intentions: To say SORRY and THANKS. I was clear from the moment we got there – I was there to say sorry for an email she didn't even remember or maybe even read. I told her I judged her. I told her she had changed my perception and I wanted to grow and be more open."
Posted: 29 Apr 2014 05:53 PM PDT
"Now, I think that tickling and being silly and pretending to eat my kids' feet is one of the greatest parenting skills out there. So, I definitely don't really think that tickling is bad or roughhousing is bad. I think the important thing is that the minute your kid says "no," you stop. Even if you know they are kidding, teach them that "no" means the other person will stop. They'll learn both that their "no" matters, and they'll learn that if someone says no to them, that they should immediately listen." Really important stuff. I think the first one is very applicable for siblings, too. It never occurred to me until I read something similar awhile back that I needed to tell Graves that if he's tickling Annie and she says "stop", he is to STOP. That's a really big deal to me. I need her to know that her "no" is powerful and I need him to know that if a girl ever tells him "no", he is absolutely to respect that (of course, I pray neither ever find themselves in such a situation). 

On Sex:
Posted: 28 Apr 2014 06:33 PM PDT
"Sex is private. We shouldn't talk about it publicly – and certainly not in the church (Song of Songs notwithstanding). It will make people uncomfortable. It will make me uncomfortable. It's how we all came to be, yet we compulsively secret it under layers of myth and shame - except, of course, when it might be useful for the marketing of consumer goods. I worry that there aren't enough true stories going around. I know there aren't enough good stories going around. I'm biased, but I think my story is both true and good." This is beautiful.

On Reading:
Posted: 03 May 2014 08:52 PM PDT
"To cognitive neuroscientists, Handscombe's experience is the subject of great fascination and growing alarm. Humans, they warn, seem to be developing digital brains with new circuits for skimming through the torrent of information online. This alternative way of reading is competing with traditional deep reading circuitry developed over several millennia. "I worry that the superficial way we read during the day is affecting us when we have to read with more in-depth processing," said Maryanne Wolf, a Tufts University cognitive neuroscientist and the author of "Proust and the Squid: The Story and Science of the Reading Brain.""

On Small Apartment Living 
Posted: 23 Apr 2014 06:31 PM PDT
I love it! We're not quite that fancy, but I will say that my pull out Ikea couch has a more comfortable mattress than our legit bed at home! Ha!

On Best Practices (Arguing and Saying Sorry):
Posted: 28 Apr 2014 06:46 PM PDT
"As soon as two people start talking, a communication climate develops, and it's made up of expectations, trust, acknowledgment, and commitment. When presenting a viewpoint, Gibb says, one of the big mistakes we make is attempting what he calls "detached neutrality." This happens when I'm telling you something incredibly important that I'm really passionate about (finances, kids' schedules, work mistakes), and you're saying, "Okay, don't get emotional. Stay calm." The research shows that I'll simply up my degree of emotion until I get a response that matches my intensity. For the conversation to make progress, you need to acknowledge the other person's emotions. It doesn't mean you agree with what they're saying, but you need to acknowledge that he or she is upset or passionate. If you don't, there will be a roadblock in the conversation."

Posted: 28 Apr 2014 06:25 PM PDT
"I'm sorry for… This is wrong because… In the future, I will… Will you forgive me? It made a lot of sense. It seemed a little tedious, but the more I thought about it, the more it became clear that each component was necessary. Even though that was all he said about it that day, it became an integral part of my classroom culture for years to come." This is great. We're totally doing this at the Schoolhouse in the City (which is actually our apartment (or the whole city, really) and includes two teachers and two pupils).

On Doing Nothing:
Posted: 28 Apr 2014 06:39 PM PDT
"My brain was unencumbered by constant input and was allowed to create output. The only stimulation was the flickering of the fire and the patter of the rain. My brain had room to be creative and I was amazed at how clear my mind felt. The second thing that my brain did, was that it let go. I got sleepy. It was only 8:00pm and I felt properly and deliciously drowsy. My body relaxed and I felt comfortable enough to simply sit there and enjoy the feeling."

On the Cost of Living:
Posted: 29 Apr 2014 05:51 PM PDT
Oh, look. I found something where Mississippi is first for something awesome. Kinda neat- we've lived in the cheapest state and the third most expensive. I will say it's not SO bad when you have a great neighborhood grocery store, plus access to Target and Trader Joe's; you are comfortable putting your four person, two cat family in a 1.5 BR apartment; and you mostly do free stuff at the library and park and eat pizza and hot dogs when you "go out".
Posted: 29 Apr 2014 05:51 PM PDT

On Moving (or Not):
Posted: 29 Apr 2014 05:52 PM PDT
I married a (temporary) leaver and I was a reluctant temporary leaver. I feel in love with a new place, but not a day goes by that I don't miss my old place. At this point it would feel disingenuous to choose anything but a white ball. Glad the whites were an option.
On Miscellaneous Topics of Interest:
Posted: 03 May 2014 08:44 PM PDT
So funny!

Posted: 05 May 2014 07:31 PM PDT
SO funny.
Posted: 05 May 2014 07:30 PM PDT
I'm not even a huge fan of The Office (I am a huge fan of pop culture) and this is amazing.
Posted: 05 May 2014 06:31 PM PDT
[And do skip the last five seconds are so if you're at all easily offended.]


1 comment:

Bech and Marley Evans said...

I'm just now catching up on blogs from the past few weeks. And I made your weekly links post...yay!